Wednesday, January 7, 2009

Friends...

I get rather distressed when I don't see my friends for a whole week... it wears me out. At least I'm gonna see everyone on Saturday!

9 comments:

Emily said...

Me too! I know what you mean sooooo much.

Marissa said...

Okay, I'm hoping this won't be long. But I just had to reply. And I hope you don't mind me going into a comment longer than your post. ;-)

For about five years (from when I was 10-14?) I was without friends who I saw every week. I wrote letters to my friends in NM, and after a while talked on the phone every now and then to my friends in CT, WI, and Raleigh. But I didn't see them, and I didn't have real, biblical fellowship with them for quite some time.

Then we came to CrossWay. I loved it - people other than my family cared about me (which was absolutely astounding at the time) and I was able to laugh and talk with friends every week.

But God brought something to my attention - during the time I was without friends, He was always there, waiting for me to turn to Him as my only friend. I couldn't let my new friends He had blessed me with replace His infinite, amazing friendship. I realized I was so starved for both friendship and spiritual nourishment, but I started to value the new friendship over the new nourishment. So He's been working with me in that - sure, I look forward to seeing you all on Sunday, but that's not my main purpose anymore. It's to worship God with the local church.

Of course I'm not saying this is you at all, Wesley. I guess I don't really know why I'm commenting. But your post just reminded me of all of this, and I thought someone, somewhere, might appreciate it . . .

And that was a lot longer than I meant it to be.

Emily said...

Oh, Marissa! I can absolutely relate. I seriously had no real friends until I can to Crossway. And you know what's sad? I didn't even realize it.

I never knew what Biblical fellowship was like... The church I went to had very low expectations for teens. I never really fit, as my parents didn't let me do a lot of the things they were doing.

When I came to Crossway, I had the same reaction, Marissa. And for myself, I have grown so much Spiritually here. I am so incredibly thankful for how God has changed me in just about every area of my life. He has also, graciously made me aware of my sin. I love having friends that I can talk to about Jesus every week, who always are so thoughtful and can be fun and serious.

But I also agree about church being much more than a social thing. I always am so ready for going to church and worshiping every Sunday. And God somehow finds something in every message, song or verse that relates to something I have been thinking about or struggling with.

Yeah, apparently, Marissa and I have taken over your post. Sorry 'bout that.

Just to clarify, Wes, I most definitely agree, though with not seeing my friends for an entire week. It's really hard. See you on Saturday!

Wesley said...

Yeah, I know of what y'all speak. That's something that I've struggled with for so long... just letting it all go and focusing on God. Life's not about friends or money or jobs or cars or music... it's about God. He's the only thing that really satisfies and always gives peace...

As you probably know, I've been at CrossWay all my life, so I haven't really experienced what y'all have, but I can still relate. Before I was a Christian, I really did depend on friends, and I still do more than I mean to. I think that this is one area that none of us will really conquer until we go to heaven.

Thanks for posting this. It's good to know that I'm not the only one like this. =)

Emily said...

Yeah, my friends, next to God and my family are a gigantic part of my life. I just have to make sure that they stay /next to/ and not before them :)

Stephanie said...

Well, not everyone, Wes. You won't see me on Sat. :P

Wesley said...

I believe I know which Stephanie this is... haha. Well, I think one would assume that I didn't mean you, since you don't go to Q222. =P

Steph said...

Haha...thanks, so now I'm not your friend anymore? :P
I know, we like never see each other.

Wesley said...

Thou art incorrect. Thou art still my person. =P
It really does stink that we never see each other.
And now you don't have to answer the question about if you read my blog or not... haha.